Friday, January 16, 2009

A lesson to learn

Some people have a habit of learning from their surroundings i also want to be one of them i believe we all need to educate our selves beside from newspaper and course books, life is much larger than your business administration degree or your medical sciences study. if you want to excel in life you have to learn from you surroundings, you have to watch people doing good deeds learn from them.
If any of your parents making you understand something dont give them "Not so happening" glance, i know they always seems to be wrong but in reality they are always right and i am not saying i always do what they say but i know they are always right because they have an experience which is much better than any other knowledge because when u have a knowledge about any thing you make assumptions or u have information but when you get to experience that thing for which you have only some knowledge before you get to know the real essence of life and that is how you learn .
So the best example i am going to give here is my self i am not going to exaggerate my self being so righteous and honest what i would like to share is i learn from my mistakes. i know people make mistakes and then forget about them what ever the consequences come we face them and move on and always feel bad about those mistakes and never try to think about them ever again but in my opinion its really not bad to make mistakes because thats is how we learn not to make them again.
Its about our realization once we realize we have done something wrong we should start the learning process the first step is forget about any bad feeling or regret you have . second try to calm yourselves by understanding that mistakes are unavoidable everyone make mistakes there is nothing big about it try to stop cursing your self or cursing others or life sometimes we all act stupid, and things dont turned out as we plan and that is why we are here to learn .
Third and final step try to learn from your mistake that is hard because there are few people who actually blame themselves for their mistakes, dont put too much blame again just manage the balance ,analyze what goes wrong and decide not repeat it next time .
Trust me this learning process is a great way to be positive towards your life .

and lastly i just want to add one saying of Hazrat ALI (A.S)which i again gained by this learning process from my surroundings.It is

"Jub Dua or Kosish say baat na banay tu faisla Allah per chor do. Allah apnay bandu kay barray main behtar faisla karnay wala hai ."

Meaning

"When prayers and all your tries don't seem like working out leave the decision on Allah .Allah always takes the better decision for his people."

Friday, January 9, 2009

Somewhere I belong....

No no i am not going to write linkins park song's lyrics here but yes i wanted to elaborate this title because i have came across such feeling many times . The quest of my identity , the place where i always wanted to reach, still my thirst is incomplete ,still the desire of reaching my destiny is unfilled.
Where i belong ?
When i was a kid i had to changed my school in sixth grade although i was a confident kid but the fear of being unaccepted by other kids was the first thing that stroked me while i was entering new class , same happened my class mates were not so welcoming and as my quite nature i had to suffer and bare strange glances ,funny groans, rude behavior no body tried to bully me but it was like a normal attitude which i guess every person faces when entering into a new territory, but i have been always among a list of best students so i wasn't in any hurry to make friends .
I was good in studies and few days later managed to mingle with the group of girls but still nobody recognized me so much, meanwhile my english teacher selected me for a declamation contest and i won first prize that day was the day i have been looking for since the very first day of my new class that was my break through every body in my class came near me they actually noticed me , i made my identity and since then i was one of the known person in teachers and among students.
School finished had good grades , all well , college was again fun and then this feeling of belonging somewhere else came ... not because the circumstances changed but because i never got any break through again , everything changed my university life was a big disaster for me although i made frnds there but i spent four years of my life with this feelings , i know how it feels when this feeling comes up it ruins everything even if you are surrounded by divine beauty you still cannot enjoy it.
I don not have any regret but the only regret is where i was wrong to made a decision of destroying my identity, why i ever opted for such place where i have never belonged , how am i going to turn back the time.
will i ever become able to judge my place of belonging next time???
or do i have to learn more ????